The Beginning....a story untold

Have you ever been eternally grateful for someone? You know they aren't perfect, but they just amaze you with the things they do? They can drive you crazy, but make you cherish them at the same time? This person to me is my husband. He is the one of the most patient men I have ever met ( My Dad is first).
Terrance and I have been married for 10 years today. 10 YEARS! Not many people these days can say they were married at 19 and last for 10 years. Not many people these days are getting married in their 20's and 30's and lasting for 10 years. The odds were totally against us. We were young kids, doing what young kids do, and found ourselves grown up over night.
It was February of 2003 when my life changed forever. I borrowed my roommates car to drive to a clinic in town. At the time I was attending Harding University, in Searcy Arkansas. A christian based university and town, the clinic I was headed to wasn't ideal. It took me a few weeks to really grasp the reality that my life was about to change forever. I didn't tell my roommate why I needed her car, because I didn't know how to. A parental planning clinic offered free pregnancy tests and counseling. I couldn't risk buying a test at Walmart and being seen by students or faculty there. If that happened expulsion from the university was the consequence. Oddly enough, the clinic was withing walking distance to the school. I parked my roommates car down the road a bit to avoid someone recognizing her car and becoming suspicious of her.........
2 words: " You're Pregnant" was all it took to change my life forever!
After that moment, my life became a whirlwind. I now had to decide how to tell Terrance, my school and most of all my parents. I was thankful for my roommate that day.
The next 2 months went by in a blur. I withdrew from Harding, moved back home to Colorado and worked at a pet store in the mall until the beginning of April. Then I packed up my belongings and life I knew to move to Jefferson City, Missouri to marry my college sweetheart at the tender age of 19. We had 6 weeks to plan our wedding. We were eternally blessed with friends, family and congregation who helped us pull off a small, inexpensive and perfect wedding. The highlights of course of the wedding where 2 things. First, right after we said our " I Do's" a phone begins to ring. At first I think someone in the crowd got a call. Until the moment Terrance, YES TERRANCE pulls his cell phone from his tux pocket and answers it! Now, you're probably wondering who would have been calling him on a day such as this, a friend who wasn't invited, his secret girlfriend (kidding).. NO, it was Jared his groomsman standing 2 bodies away! I believe the conversation went T " Hello"... J " Hey Man, What are you doin'?"... T " I'm getting marriend, gotta go." HILARIOUS! Although I didn't see it, a man in the front row, apparently was about to run up and ring Terrance's neck for pulling such a stunt, until the phone rings again..... " Hello".. " Hey Man, DON'T DO IT!".. Thanks to my wonderful soon to be brother in law, and best man, Terrill calling! We got a good laugh, and it really lightened up the room. Neither one of us are much for stuffy serious atmospheres.... Time for the rings.. Brent, my father in law and minister who married us asked our first in commands to place the rings in his bible for safer, easier transfers. My wonderful Roommate and Maid of Honor did as she was told, you would think the boys could too.. WRONG. As Brent is waiting for Terrill to place my ring in his bible, the crowd starts to laugh when we all look up and see my ring being lowered with fishing line through the arch we had above our heads. Which would have been fine, until the line was tugged to hard, and the ring got stuck. Brent had to get on his tippy toes and break the line. I was thankful for the pranks. It made for great memories, video, and a great start to our new life together.
We spent our honeymoon night at Tan Tara Resort at the Lake of the Ozarks.There was a convention going on, so we got literally the last room available which was 2 double beds. The next day we were home by lunch and at church that night. Not much of a honeymoon by today's standards, but we were young kids who couldn't afford to go anywhere.
Since that day, Terrance and I have welcomed 2 gorgeous children into our lives, Crysta and Carter and expecting our 3rd this August. We still have our first family pet, Akira who has been with us for 7 years. We  bought our first home in 2010 and have been through a strew of vehicles, although only 3 of them we have purchased together. We have had our ups and downs, highs and lows, fighting and laughter. One thing has remained constant. Our love for each other and God.  This 10 year journey has been unlike anything I could ever imagine, and I am so thankful for it! I am so blessed with my family too. I now, as of today have 4 sisters, 4 brothers, 4 nieces, 1 nephew and another niece due in September. I thank God everyday for the many blessings in my life. If you are reading this, then that makes you one of them. Thank you to everyone who has supported, encouraged  comforted, and kicked me in the rear when I needed you the most, I would not be where I am today without you. I am looking forward to the future with an open heart and mind, never forgetting to thank God everyday for what he has given me.
Sometimes the most un-ideal situations like teen pregnancy can be what it takes to straighten someones path, and save their lives. I can't imagine who I'd be with or where I'd be otherwise. For those of you who were curious of my and Terrance's story, there you have it. Although that is how it started, that is not what defines our relationship, and life together or with God. I am thankful for that cold February day, because although it turned my world upside down for a moment, it has given me a lifetime of pure happiness.

Feeling Blue

As promised and predicted, I am regretting my previous post. Although I know that it was important to me to get those words out there, I am understanding of the hurt the entire situation has caused. If I had it my way, there would never been any hurt. All would be skittles and and rainbows and nothing bad ever happens. However, I know that not only is this unrealistic and crazy, I know that without trials and tribulations there would be no growth. I can not shy away from my feelings, and my right and privilege to express them. I just want to say that it is NEVER my intent to purposefully hurt, harm or offend anyone. Friend, Family, or acquaintance. And I hope that anyone who knows me, knows that. And if I ever do or say anything that is hurtful to you, that you feel that you can discuss that with me. With all that said, I have to move on. What has happened has happened, and I can not change the past. I  can only look forward to the future God has planned for me and pray that I please Him in all that I do. God knows my heart, and I can only pray that others do as well.

NOW, MOVING ON!!!

As most of you know ( what few there are who read this) we are expecting our 3rd child this August. I will say that all in all this pregnancy was a complete surprise to say the least. However, after a few weeks of adjusting to the thought of another little head running around our house, we have become pretty excited. Crysta and Carter are SUPER excited to have another playmate. Carter is pretty obsessed with feeling my stomach to see if the baby moves, there are even mornings that I wake up and Carter's hand is resting on my stomach. While Crysta is determined that the baby will recognize her voice and talks to my tummy almost everyday, even hugging and kissing it. It warms my heart to see the excitement and gentleness my children have, and their eagerness to welcome another blessing into our family. We were able to discover that this baby was more than willing to cooperate in the ultrasound so we could find out the gender. Of course we just want a healthy baby. And truthfully the gender didn't matter to us, as we got ride of every last bit of baby stuff we had last summer. ( Like I said, we were not planning on having another baby!).. So, we are starting fresh, period. But everyone was excited to see the picture that distinctly told us, that this little wiggle worm in my womb is a Bouncing Baby Boy!. We were able to have a small gender reveal party with my big brother and his wife, who is also expecting their 1st child in September, and my parents. I have never had a gender reveal thing, but I guess these days that's the thing to do!
So now we get to find a place for this little guy to sleep. We will be doing some small renovation on our home to prepare for this. Crysta will be getting her own room, and Carter will be getting a new roommate. Of course I am looking forward to painting and decorating a girly girl room for Crysta and a boys room for Carter and the baby.! I'm sure I will keep updating as this process goes on..Thank goodness for Pinterest for inspiration. I will leave you with a picture from our gender reveal. more to come once my brother officially announces their gender! Thanks for reading!

" Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything." Ephesians 5: 22-24. 
 This verse has been heavily on my heart lately, especially the last part, IN EVERYTHING. I normally do not have trouble or issues with allowing my husband to be the head of the house. Leader of our spiritual growth, but there has been a few things that have come up, that I have found myself struggle with.
For the sake of privacy I will not dive far into specific details on these things, but I will touch on a few. As most everyone who knows me knows, I have a crippling habit to be a people pleaser. I know that you can not always make everyone happy. But being who I am, I try anyway. I won't compromise my faith, family, or beliefs for this purpose, but if it is in my control to please someone and avoid conflict I will do it. I deeply try to avoid conflict with anyone, ESPECIALLY family. And if I find myself in a conflicting position with family, I always feel terrible and beat myself up over it, even though I know it's OK. Conflict can be a beneficial and growing tool between friends and family if the right attitude is taken. Another characteristic about me, is I am not a vengeful person. I do not find the need or urge to "pay someone back" for hurting or offending me. Now I am not saying that my husband is either of these things. However, something very special and personal to us was released into public knowledge without our consent. We weren't quite ready for the news to be out, but it happened and that's that. I was upset for a while. And when I tried to talk to the person about it, I felt like no responsibility was taken, and it was blamed on me. That I should have made that more clear, when in my head it would have been common sense. Again, what happened happened, and it was out.
I spoke with my husband one day about this, and he told me that he too tried to talk to the person about it, and pretty much felt shut out. Like what he was saying didn't matter and his feelings about the situation were minuscule and pointless. His feelings kept getting disregarded and my feelings took the priority, even though I was not apart of the conversation. The conversation hurt my husband, deeply. He is not usually one to discuss his "feelings" about anything, so when he does open up, it's a rare glimpse into his heart. That day he tried to show this person that glimpse and it went un-noticed or acknowledged. Therefore, my husband decided that the next bit of big news we had, we would not share with this specific individual, and they would learn the news "though the grapevine". Despite my inward screams to go against him on this, I stuck by him and his decision. It bothered me more than you will ever know, and deep down I knew that the outcome would not be beneficial to either party. I did talk to my husband about this, but he stuck to his guns. Now, here is where my struggle was. I wanted to support him. I knew that he had been hurt, and felt the need to make the point. But I was also being affected by his choices, and I was not comfortable with them. So what would you have done? Would you have told the person anyway? Would I have been an un-submissive wife if I were to do the opposite of what my husband had called me to do?
This may seem silly to you. But once the news got out, and this individual learned of the secret we were keeping, my feelings were deeply hurt by their reaction. I will admit it was mostly regret and guilt on my part. I do not blame them for being hurt or reacting the way they did either. It was a silly circumstance that I should brush off my shoulders, but like I said, I hate hurting or upsetting anyone. I feel torn.
I love both parties deeply. I am stuck in a situation to where I do not know if I should step in an explain our actions to the person, but that would mean I would have to speak for my husband, which I feel is not my place. And I know this may be confusing because I am not giving details, I just needed to vent a bit. Any feed back is welcome. Thanks for reading! I will have a more exciting post tomorrow!